The quality of our lives is determined by the focus of our attention.
– Cheri Huber
As a child, I had a recurring dream:
I’m crouched under a large, wooden chair, and Mickey Mouse
is headed my way with a kettle of boiling water, intending to
scald me, and no matter how much I scream, no one hears.
I grew up in a very chaotic home. Attention was hard to come by. Everyone was distracted, and in hindsight, I would say, grasping just to survive. I adapted to this mode of existing very well, until I had children, and realized that I wanted to give them something better.
I didn’t want to be that mother that put housework ahead of quality time. I hated that I was short-tempered and that no matter how hard I tried, I never felt in control. I wanted to be fully present in their lives. But of course, the ideal does not always translate into the day-to-day living, and old habits die hard.
The drive to be a good role model for my children is what led me down a spiritual path. It is what helped me recognize that the patterns of my childhood were destructive and that in order to change, I needed to be aware – to acknowledge what wasn’t working.
It’s a process.
Yesterday, after a particularly gruelling stroll down memory lane, my psychologist mentioned a series I might be interested in: Sounds True. I googled it and found a podcast: Sounds True: Insights at the Edge. I started with Cheri Huber’s episode: There’s Nothing Wrong with You. The title, and Huber’s words resonate.
I especially like her insistence on attention.
This week, I invite you along with me, to be attentive: in the moment, to the voices in our heads, to the nuances around us. How often do you find yourself distracted, and what happens if you bring yourself back to full attention?
Look forward to your responses. I think this challenge lends itself well to the creative spark in all of, be it poetry, anecdotes, photography, or other.
- Create and publish a post on your blog.
- Tag it VJWC
- Link back here or leave a link in the comments.
- Revel in the creativity of our community.