As my husband recovers from his fifth surgery in the past year, I am struggling to keep up with life’s obligations: the shadow. He’s doing as well as can be expected, but I am not used to doing all the driving, shopping, cooking and caring. As tired as I am, I can’t help but reflect on how the tables have turned, and wonder how gracious of a patient I have or have not been these past years, while he has cared for me.
Just when you think you’ve understood one of life’s challenges, there is always another one on its heels. Shadows and reflections.
(For Cee’s Fun Foto Challenge: reflections and shadows)
The challenges of life and how we respond rather than react often define us, through the various life stages. I do hope things are looking better for your husband and wish him a speedy recovery. It makes us appreciate all the little things a spouse might do and a solemn reminder when I am annoyed that he has inadvertantly created more work for me, when a small job has been left undone. Had I to do everything myself, as you have spoken of, I would be utterly exhausted. Take it easy.
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Perhaps this is the lesson of aging – patience to respond with compassion. We are muddling through. Thanks for your kind words.
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Oh I like that. Patience to respond with compassion. Well said. That will stay in my mind today. Thanks!
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Welcome!
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So sorry to hear about this…but praying that things will all get better sooner than later, VJ
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Thanks Terri!
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Sorry Teresa! I have another friend named Teresa, whom I call Terri.
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That’s alright … sounds quite right!
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You’ve got this, dear V.J. ❤
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Thanks Laura. Each day truly is a new one.
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It must feel like it never ends. When life becomes such a balancing act it is even more exhausting. And it can be incredibly lonely to be that shadow. Five surgeries…oh my that’s a challenge for anyone. Your images are so telling (especially the bridge). Hold on to your own health as best you can under all of this. Positive thoughts coming your way.
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Thanks Andrea. It’s been unreal, actually. Poor guy. He’s finding it hard to regain momentum, but we plug on.
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Welcome. It sounds unreal. What a long road for both of you.
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Seems life is a constant run of shadows and reflections, VJ! I wish Ric a speedy recovery and send blessings your way. 💖
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Thanks Eugi!
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Life’s shadows come and go. Some really put us to the test. These photos are perfect for pondering them. Take care V.J.
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Thanks Heather.
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You’re welcome.
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Keeping you and Ric in my thoughts and prayers as you both deal with this “new normal” VJ. Caring for others when you’re ill yourself has its own unique set of challenges, but I’m sure you’re taking it all in stride. You’re an exceptionally strong woman, and I know you’ll come through this just as you have everything life has thrown at you so far. Sending hugs!
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Thanks for the vote of confidence, Terri. It’s been a few teary days, as I am now fighting an infection – this too shall pass. Kids are coming by today which will be a huge boost.
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I’m so sorry VJ. Praying for quick healing of your infection. I’m glad you’ll get to see the kids today – I’m sure they’ll boost your spirits.
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Beautiful photos VJ 😀
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Thanks Cee!
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Those photos go well with what you shared! What amazing grace that you are able to step up and give back the same love and care Rick has given to you! Sending healing prayers to you both! 🙂 ❤
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Thanks Deborah. I’m not as good of a caregiver as my resources are limited, but I try.
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It’s about the heart not the resources! 🙂 ❤
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Thanks for that!
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True. Life surprises us at unexpected moments, Wishing you and your husband good health.
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Thank you.
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Shadows and reflections is a good analogy for this time of life. I hope Ric continues on the road to recovery.
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Thanks Liz. He’s coming along, slowly.
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You’re welcome, VJ.
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VJ, sadly, a shadow is a terrific analogy. All the best to you and your husband. It is hard on the both of you. Keith
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Thanks Keith
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So true! Good to glance up at the bigger (reciprocal) view while mushing through unrelenting care-giver demands. Peace to each of you through this round.
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Thanks Jazz.
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So sorry. I know by experience that is a hard row to hoe.
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Thanks Judy.
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