VJ’s Weekly Challenge: I’m learning…

Ric is home from the hospital, still hooked up to IV antibiotics and needing daily nursing care, and I’m learning that I cannot hold responsibility for his need to push boundaries.

From my son, who insisted on coming and spending the night while Ric got settled in, I am learning that I have trouble accepting help. He is teaching me that it’s okay to not do it all myself.

From my sister-in-law who can’t understand why Ric is not healing faster as she’s been praying daily, I am learning that God’s will doesn’t always follow our intent.

In the States, a man who incited a coup against the government was acquitted and I learned that things are not always as they appear.

And in this month of Black History I am realizing that my white privilege renders me more enabler than ally, unless I am will to open my mind and learn.

What in your life is pushing you to acknowledge that your understanding may be off, and that there may just be more to learn?

Please join me this week, by responding to the challenge in a post and linking back here, or leaving a comment below.

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Permission to write, paint, and imagine are the gifts I gave myself when chronic illness hit - a fair exchange: being for doing. Relevance is an attitude. Humour essential.

57 thoughts on “VJ’s Weekly Challenge: I’m learning…

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  2. So happy for you that Ric is home.

    Life has still so many lessons to teach but I now find I am not a very good student at times! Lol

    Interesting challenge. My mind is in a churn but not yet ready to throw up ideas. So I wait impatiently. Sigh….

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  3. In dealing with my husband’s dementia,
    I discover that every day is different
    in the way this disease presents. Patience
    is a virtue, one I was not blessed with.

    There is not a solution for every situation,
    and that is a hard acceptance for me.
    You cannot force a person to do
    what you feel is right. They do not
    care. At some point, you finally
    realize that you are doing
    everything humanly possible,
    but it is not enough.

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  4. Oh my. Such a relief to have him home, but adjusting to another new normal – and all the learning wrapped up in it – can be exhausting. It sounds head spinning and accepting help was a good first step. Not easy though.

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  5. I am so glad Ric is home and you have your son there to help. The one constant is life is change thus we never stop learning. “Inch by inch, life’s a cinch. Yard by yard, life’s hard.” – John Bytheway

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  6. I’m glad to hear that your son came to help you with Ric’s transition from hospital care to home care. Is this the same son who painted your mother’s fingernails?

    I’m learning to adjust to a life without anyone from my immediate family still living. How can I be myself if the people who made me who I am are gone?

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    1. It is the same son. I cannot imagine how difficult it is, Liz. I have lost a sister and a father, and many other extended family members, and I know their words and actions live on in my mind and memory. I imagine it is both freeing and confusing.

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  7. I’m so glad Ric was able to come home VJ. It’s so much better to be home where you can be comfortable if at all possible. Every day provides new lessons and shows us how much we still have to learn. Wishing Ric – and you – all the best as he recovers. Hugs!

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  8. I am happy to hear Ric is at home and that your son came to help. I can relate to the resistance to accepting help. Not easy for the fiercely independent. Yet I have sometimes fantasized about having a butler (“another cup of tea, please, Bunter”). I also really liked your quote and this week’s challenge. Be well and stay safe!

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  9. VJ, what a great quote! It reminded me of Malcolm Gladwell’s book “Outliers” regarding successful people. He highlighted four traits – being talented or smart enough, practicing 10,000 hours at your craft, getting opportunity and seizing opportunity.

    To your point, many people do not recognize opportunity and pass on it. Gladwell noted Bill Gates used to go to the Univ. of Washington computer labs at 1 am to program as it was available to the public. Gladwell’s point is Gates got up out of bed to go program at 1 am. By the time Gates was 21, he was one of the five best programmers in the world. Keith

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