Pondering Abstractions

The certainty of yesterday
has slipped our grasp
light deflecting truth
tossing us into the abstract

I ponder process
and outcomes,
will my mind to carry me
gliding between thermals
dissolving into vapours

Some realities too hard to bear –
dislodged, we tread the indeterminate.

(I submit these images and poem to the challenges of Lens-Artists and Ragtag Community. While we try to stay focused on the upcoming holiday celebrations, our hearts are heavy with recent loss and the news of cancer striking close to home. I am reminded that Christmas can amplify tragedy. Be extra kind to one another.)

Every Step a Miracle

Angel of Death. The name had started to stick. As a volunteer, working with the dying, my job was to help patients relax, ease some of their stress.

“She needs you more than me,” on old Irish doctor said as we both arrived at a patient’s home simultaneously. “I can give her medication for the pain, but dying takes strength and a surrender I can’t prescribe.”

I learned about dying from my sister’s bedside.

“Have you ever witnessed death?” her attending nurse asked, and when I shook my head, she cautioned: “You might want to leave now.”

I didn’t leave. I’d promised my sister that she wouldn’t die alone. I stayed till the end.

I would do the same for many more. It was why I studied Therapeutic Touch, Reiki, and other forms of relaxation. Bringing comfort to the ailing gave me a purpose.

My grandmother had been a midwife. She practiced in a rural area, at a time when phones were not available.

“How did you know when to go?” I asked her once. “Births are unpredictable.”

“There is a subtle knowing that comes with the position,” she said considering her answer. “Sometimes I would have a dream alerting me to the time, other times it was just an impulse.”

Attending to deaths was much the same. Unpredictable, and yet with subtle cues. Grandma ushered life in, I helped the crossing over.

The circle of life.

(Note: it’s been years now since I have been able to assist the dying. The experiences I had were a gift and an honour. I was prompted to write about this experience by Reena’s Exploration challenge, and also by my weekly focus which is subtle. Life is precious and each stage a miracle. I am grateful to be reminded of this today.)

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Bedside Conversations

“Mom, I want you to know that I don’t harbour any ill will toward our past. If I seek to know what happened, it is only to understand myself so that I might heal.”

Mom nods, considers my words. “There is so much I could have done differently.”

“No. You did what you could with what you had. They were difficult times.”

It is funny how, faced with imminent death, perspectives shift. Throughout my life, I have had a love/hate relationship with my mother: cowed by her criticisms, angry at her life choices, disappointed that she didn’t protect us. It all seems so petty now.

“The greatest regret I have concerning you,” she says, reaching a frail hand toward me; “is that I never comforted you after the rape. What kind of a mother was I to turn my back on you?”

Her words catch me off guard. I tear up. “You didn’t know.”

“No, but I’ve come across it in your writing.”

I thought I had filtered that part out, usually careful about what I let her read.

We talk about it. Clear the air. She cries with me and shares her own story of rape at fourteen. I’m the first person she’s ever told, she adds.

How life can chew us up and tear us apart. Good thing love’s bonds are so strong.

I ask her about earlier days – parts of my childhood that are foggy. We laugh at some of it, and shake our heads at other bits.

Then exhausted, we both withdraw into ourselves, and in the silence, nod off.

When it’s time to go, she tells me that I have always been her strength, her rock.

“It’s good to have you home.”

I wish I could do so much more.


It snowed early that year, and those who gathered at the church hall were dressed to keep out the cold, mumbling about the weather, and helping themselves to warm beverages.  Seems deaths come in threes, and this was the third of our family members we’d buried in as many months.

“Where’s Uncle Charles?” I asked my mother, taking inventory of those present.

“He’s up north hunting.  Couldn’t make it back.”

He’ll be sorry to miss this, I think to myself.  It was his oldest brother being buried after all.  I worked my way around the room, greeting relatives and swapping stories, until a sudden gust from the doorway made me turn.

Stepping in out of the cold was Uncle Charles, who smiled and winked at me across the room, as he shook the snow off his coat and stamped his boots.  He looked unusually dapper, with a smart fedora and long wool coat.  Hardly hunting gear.

I wrapped up my conversation and pushed through the crowd to greet a favourite uncle, now nowhere in sight.

“Nice to see Charles made it,” I mentioned to my mother later.  “Although, I don’t know where he went.”

“Charles didn’t come.  I told you, he’s snowed in up north.”

“But he did.  I saw him.”

“What was he wearing?”

I explained.  “I’d know him anywhere Mom,” I plead my case, ” by the glint in his eye and that unmistakable moustache.”

“My brother Charles hasn’t sported a moustache in years.  You’re describing my Dad.  A couple of others said they saw him too. Of course he’d be here for his first born’s funeral.”

My mother’s father.  A man I’d never met.  A man who died the year before I was born.

(Submitted for my weekly challenge:  veil.   Also linking up with Laura’s Manic Monday 3 Way Prompt. )





When We Meet In Heaven, Daughter (A Response)

I’ll be waiting for you in Heaven, daughter,
although the roles we played in life
have no bearing here – only souls
congregating in spiritual reflection.

Still the ties that bound us will be vivid,
your mind, no doubt reeling in transition,
the turmoil of earthly incarnation
still buzzing in emotional swirls.

I’ve had the benefit of time, to consider
the limitations that defined us –
the depth of our individual despair,
how our dramas intertwined, disconnected

I know that I have caused you pain,
that I must bear the certainty of your rage
and I am ready… hopeful…have faith
that the essence of your being will embrace

forgiveness, invite transformation –
even in life you sought enlightenment,
did not shut the door on me, though
you could have…had every reason…

My fellow soul traveller, my heart’s kin –
the door is open, and I am ready to receive
all that you have to share, all that you are –
that we may rise together, into salvation.

(V.J.’s Weekly Challenge is point of view.  On my other blog, today, I posted a poem to my father, entitled “When We Meet In Heaven, Dad.” I decided to write a response to that poem from my father’s point of view.)

Fatal Fury

Really wasn’t your fault
this fury that overcame –
Words evoked onslaught,
a raging river of pain.

Didn’t mean to push you,
miscalculated my aim,
swimming in swamp waters
not a recommended game.

You floundered, gurgled,
cursed me by name –
our love story, now viral
brought an alligator fame.

( A silly ditty for Deb Whittam’s 50 word Thursday.  Photo supplied by Deb.)

The Spirit of Wild Horses

tranquilityWe’ve come back to Coon’s Bluff in hopes of seeing the wild horses.  The day is crystal blue, without a cloud in the sky.  My heart is heavy.

I woke up in the middle of the night, with the lines of a poem running through my head.  Without turning on the light, I reached for my phone and wrote them down:

Let us line our memories, side by side, build a raft to hold her; let our tears flow as one, form a river to carry her…

I hadn’t heard from my friend in days and I knew this wasn’t a good sign.  I messaged her daughter with no response.  Dini has been fighting an aggressive form of cancer for a little over a year now.  It’s our habit to communicate everyday, if only through our ongoing games of Words with Friends, but she hasn’t been playing for a while and her last message was short, strange:

I’m ok.  Going to sleep.  M6

There is little I can do, so far from home.

mntnhorsesCoon’s Bluff is a strip of land with the mountain on one side and a drop overlooking the Salt River on the other.  Spotting the horses up on the mountain top, I head that way, while Ric is drawn to the water.

The horses are magnificent, and it feels like such a privilege to be here with them.  I capture a few images and then push my walker farther along to a point where the mountain becomes sheer rock face.  The colours here are spectacular:  the reds of the mountain, the green of the mesquite with their dark, almost black trunks, the greys and caramel of the rocks leading down to the deep blue-green of the water.  I would love to follow the path around the mountain, but note that it narrows and drops off at one point, so I choose a more sure-footed route, along the bluff, towards Ric.

happybirderFrom every direction I can hear birdsong, and I pause and ready my camera, but the motivation is lacking.  Today, I am more interested in communing with nature than photographing it.

There have been silences between Dini and I before, typically when one of us is too ill to cope with screens, but it seldom lasts for more than a couple of days.  Through another friend, I heard that she is in hospice and I wonder if this means the end, but Dini has rallied before; she is a fighter.

I move close enough to Ric that we can communicate, and hesitate.  The path before me dips considerably and I’m not sure how to proceed.  Besides, I sense that he wants to be alone too.  Before I can do anything, he signals for me to be quiet and turn around.

The mare and her foal stand right behind me.  A gentleness eminates from their presence, and they linger a moment before heading down the steep hill to the water.

boots“There are more,” Ric warns.

Not wanting to interfere with their passage, I push my rig behind the nearest bush and sit down.  A parade of horses files by and then an old grey appears, drops down on the ground and rolls, and rises again, shaking off the excess dust before heading to the water.  The stallion is next, neighing and stomping.  He is clearly agitated.  I take the cue and carefully move over by Ric on the other side of the dip.  The horse picks up pace and follows the others.

“Wow,” a woman exclaims stepping out from behind a tree, her hand over her heart.  “Wasn’t that something?”

“They are amazing to see, for sure.”

The sound of hoof beats alerts us to a straggler and a beautiful chestnut horse trots past.     We watch as the pack, having crossed the river, disappear into the woods on the other side.

eagleflight“There are two eagles nesting at the top of that peak,” Ric indicates the direction I’d just come from.  “The man who told me said they’d been scared off by some people with a dog, but they should come back.”

We look to the sky, and there they are, their white heads gleaming in the sunlight.  They sail above us, then over the land, then the water, making several tours before disappearing again.

redflycatcher“I need to sit,” Ric announces wondering if we should move on, but I’m not ready to leave.

“It’s so beautiful,” I respond, and he understands my need and finds a seat on a nearby picnic table.

I sit among the trees and watch as two Gila woodpeckers flutter about noisily.   A squirrel darts by, and I notice some ground birds foraging within camera range, but still don’t bother.  A flash of bright red, however, draws me out from my cover.  A Vermillion flycatcher.

blackphoebeI notice quite a bit of activity on a tree that hangs out over the drop, and I decide to set myself up there, in the shade.  Large rocks line the side of the bluff, and two little birds chase each other over the water and back, and a small brown head bobs in under the rock crevices.  A Rock squirrel watches from his hiding place between the rocks, and I can’t help but line up the shots, capturing the Black phoebes and the Rock wren, and eventually the red head.

I just want to stay in this moment forever.

sweethorses “My wife was bedridden for over two years,”  I hear Ric telling someone, and think how far I have come – not just in miles – but also in healing.   My disease, while debilitating at times, doesn’t carry the same threat as cancer.  I have been the lucky one.

The horses are back at the water’s edge, and watching them I feel a deep sense of calm and peace.

Life is mystery.  It is beauty and sorrow and unapologetic.  It just is.

(Afternote:  My dear friend died in the early morning hours, although I would not hear of it until the following day.  I will always associate the day she died with wild horses.)