V.J.’s Weekly Challenge #60: belief

Growing up, my mother told me over and over that I was not loveable. I heard it so often, it became a personal truth. I didn’t examine or question it until my former husband told me, after seventeen years, that he didn’t love me, had never loved me.

Of course, I told myself, I am not loveable.

And then my rational self kicked in, and yelled: NOT TRUE!

It was time to examine my belief, and make adjustments.

Beliefs can build us up, or they can hold us down.

This week, let’s think about the beliefs – personally, socially, culturally – that define our realities.

Look forward to your responses.

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48 thoughts on “V.J.’s Weekly Challenge #60: belief

  1. Pingback: Beliefs – Sgeoil
  2. You are a standard bearer for us, VJ. Inner strength and a positive self-view are things most of us have to work toward throughout life. I like the comment referencing The Help–oh that we all had a Viola!! But here on the blogs, are many who speak with her voice.

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      1. There certainly is–it’s a boon to those who have next to no one on the other side of the screen, i.e., “real” life.

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  3. After reading your story, I was very sadddened for how you were treated as unloveable in the past. Here’s to your strength in overcoming past wounds and finding the real truth. Here’s my offering on the theme. odaciuk.wordpress.com/2019/08/06/new-vision/

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  4. Thank you for sharing this and I’m ever so glad that you “knew” intuitively to shake off such a powerfully negative statement, however much you may have had to struggle against it, you did it. And that, is truly amazing and shows you to be the strong warrior you are.

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    My work is not appreciated.


    1. Is it true?

    Look up your mails and messages. Think of the compliments paid by your team members and colleagues. Think of the tough assignments given to you. Is it that your work is not appreciated, or is it that one person (maybe your boss) does not verbalize the appreciation for whatever reasons s/he has?

    2. Can you absolutely know that it’s true?

    Is it in your capacity to absolutely know the truth? What could be your boss’s compulsions or mindset? How did s/he reach that point?

    3. How do you react, what happens, when you believe that thought?

    What are the emotions generated when you believe that it is true? How does your body respond? Do you feel a choking sensation, your muscles tighten at certain points, or tears ready to flow out?

    4. Who would you be without that thought?

    What kind of person would you be, without this belief? What would be your working style? Will you be held back, or feel free to chalk your own activity plans?

    The choice is yours to retain that thought or transform it.

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  6. VJ, I am so sorry. I keep thinking of the line from the movie “The Help,” when Viola Davis’s character encourage the young daughter of woman who was not supportive of her little girl because she was not perfect, like she perceived herself to be. Viola would say with girl, “You are kind, you are smart and you are important.” I shared that with a relative who at age 56 has esteem issues and she has it on her mirror. I am glad you said “not true” to what your mother said. Keith

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