“A voice said, Look me in the starsAnd tell me truly, men of earth,If all the soul-and-body scarsWere not too much to pay for birth.” Effort, it seems to me, is what makes gain so sweet. Moving has stretched us beyond what we thought we were capable of, but never have we doubted our purpose. […]
Two days after we landed, boxes and all, I fell ill with the flu. Friends and family unpacked while I slept my way through feverish chills and sweats and all the other fun things that come with this bug. Yesterday, I regained a sense of normalcy, and could finally focus on my new surroundings. Of […]
A cruel masterthe ticking clockSo much potentialGet it done! I rush past shadowscrumple the pagesfailed attemptsmounting What of dreams?Of life’s destiny?How I worshipat the altar of should Even with positivityfantastical notions fall shortI argue against uncertaintymeet only disapproval There is no magicno pre-destined famejust dust gatheringThe dead are unimpressed. (Image my own)
Tell her to be herself, and not try to please the cliques.
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Exactly. I wish we’d known.
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Same! I learned the hard way, but learn I did, thankfully. 🙂
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Congratulations to your granddaughter, VJ! How about to focus on kindness? I think it’s what people will remember about you more than what you do. And it’ll draw the right people to you. My theory at least.
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Good advice, Wynne.
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I would tell her to focus on her studies, and still have fun. A child should be allowed to be a child, if you know what I mean. I agree with, Liz, that bullying should not be tolerated, and to find a trusted adult to intervene.
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I do know what you mean, Eugi.
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I would also remind her that you are always there for her – and maybe share how you have coped over the years – because hasn’t your writing and poetry helped you thru hard times?
So I would maybe give her a notebook and pen and remind her to find different coping ways as the years unfold for her – and maybe add regular journaling as part of that wellness – she might already journal – but a reminder to what a helpful tool it can be.
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and in your note of encouragement – I would list ten things you love about her- even if they are small silly things – because it could be a keepsake for many years.
We once heard a guy had a note like that, tucked in his wallet for 25 years, and he read it when he needed a boost.
so maybe a list of what you observe in her strengths, beauty, etc – and maybe a short poem from you!
xxxx
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Amazing thoughts. Yes.
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Remember that life can be hard, but it can also have so many beautiful moments – so be encouraged a head of time when setbacks come
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So important.
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hugs to you dear VJ
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If you’re being bullied, tell a trusted adult.
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Yes! I was bullied terribly. I finally told my Dad and he did something about it.
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I’m glad to hear that your dad advocated for you!
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He came through in moments like this – the ones that really mattered.
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I remember it took awhile for me to find a like-minded group of friends. Tell her not to give up on it–they are there somewhere. Your advice should help with that I think. (K)
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I remember that too. Fitting in is so important then.
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It is.
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I think this is a good advice VJ. I hope she listens to you. 💕
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